The Erotic Mother
For the woman within the mother aching to feel turned on, alive, and connected to her body again.
You pour your heart into your family.
You’re a fiercely devoted mother.
You plan the meals. Answer the emails. Diffuse the tantrums.
Pack the lunches. Hold the tears. And clean the mess.
You’re holding it all, but some days, it feels like no one’s holding you.
You want to stop putting yourself last.
You want to stop feeling so stretched.
You want to feel your body come ALIVE again - wet, pulsing and electric with turn on.
But right now?
Sex feels like a chore.
When your lover reaches for you, you immediately pull away.
Your body says “not now” even when your heart whispers “maybe.”
There’s an unspoken pressure to fix yourself, to get back to “that old version” of yourself, to plan the date nights, to be more turned on...
But most nights?
You sink into the couch and quietly scroll Instagram because the bedroom doesn’t feel like a sanctuary - it feels like another place you need to give more of yourself.
The Erotic Mother was created for THIS version of you.
Not the one with lots of time.
Not the one who has it all together.
The one who’s tired. Tender.
Stretched thin but silently aching to feel sexy, magnetic, and ALIVE again.
This is the space that sees you.
That holds you.
And meets you exactly where you are.
In the numbness.
In the shutdown.
In the part of you that quietly whispers, “I want more but I don’t know how.”
The Erotic Mother is where we gently reignite your sexual aliveness in slow, small and practical ways.
Without pressure. Without force.
You flinch at touch and wonder, “What’s wrong with me?”
You’re not broken. You’re touched out. Overstimulated.
Sex feels like something to get through, not something to desire.
Your body’s not the problem - it’s been in survival mode.
It shut down to protect you.
You avoid mirrors and hope confidence will come when you “fix” your body.
But it’s not about fixing. It’s about reconnecting.
Because desire doesn’t live in tips or tricks.
It lives in your nervous system. Your breath. Your body.
You don’t need another communication script.
You need tools that help your partner understand - without you carrying the emotional weight alone.
You’ve tried the things they say should work - date nights, lingerie, even therapy - but instead of turning you on, they turn you off.
INTRODUCING
The Erotic Mother
This isn’t just about sex.
It’s about coming home to YOU - your body, your desire, your erotic self... right here, in the beautiful messiness of motherhood.
The Erotic Mother isn’t another course that adds to your to-do list.
It’s a moment of reprieve.
An invitation to return to the sexual woman within the mother.
Inside you’ll find six powerful, mother-led modules you can listen to while driving, cooking, or wrangling toddlers - created to meet you in the chaos.
Every lesson is bite-sized, audio-optional, and under 15 minutes.
No fluff, just straight to the heart of the teachings so you can start implementing the tools right away.
The Erotic Mother Roadmap
Module 1: Coming Home to Yourself
Release the guilt and shame, reframe how desire really works in motherhood, and create the safety your body needs to feel turned on again, without pressure or faking it.
You’ll discover:
You’re not broken. You’re overstimulated.
Where Did My Desire Go? (And how to feel it again)
Pleasure as Fuel: Why It’s the Key to Feeling Alive
Coming back to sex after a long pause
Module 2: Your Body Isn’t The Problem
Transform shame into compassion as you grieve, honour, and reconnect with your post-baby body - feeling sexy and alive for you, stretch marks, softness, and all.
You’ll discover:
Relearning your body after babies: softness, scars, sensations
“I Don’t Recognise Myself”: Holding the Grief and Gratitude
Feeling Sexy for You, Not for Them
Self-touch to feel alive again
Module 3: Sex as a Chore and How to Rewire That
Shift intimacy from obligation and emotional exhaustion into something that feeds you - so even quick moments of connection feel satisfying, energising, and hot.
You’ll discover:
Touched-Out vs. Turned-On: Why You Feel Shut Down (and How to Reset)
Emotional Intimacy When You’re Bone-Tired
Satisfying Quickies That Actually Feel Good (Even as a Busy Mum)
How the invisible load kills desire (and what to do about it)
Module 4: Brave conversations in long-term relationships
Say what you need, ask for what you want, and finally feel heard, without guilt, overexplaining, or shutting down.
You’ll discover:
How to Say ‘I Want More’ Without Feeling Like Too Much
When It Doesn’t Feel Good Anymore: How to communicate that.
When He Doesn’t Get It: How to Stay Open (Without Taking It On)
The Art of Asking for What You Want
Module 5: Sex & Pleasure
Learn how to access deep, satisfying pleasure, even when you feel exhausted, touched out or in your head.
You’ll discover:
How to Reset Your Body for Intimacy (when it’s been a big day)
Becoming Erotic As A Mother
The Arousal Arc No One Taught You
Staying With Pleasure And Letting Go (Even When You Get in Your Head)
*BONUS* What Makes Sex Hot For You - Understanding Your Erotic Mindmap
Module 6: The Couples Corner
Help your partner finally understand what you need to feel safe, sexy, and seen - without having to explain it all yourself.
You’ll discover:
What Her Body Is Really Going Through (and Why It’s Not About You)
Safety Is the New Sexy: What Turns Her On Now
When She Says No: What She Really Means (And How to Stay Connected)
How to Support Her Without Trying to Fix Her
Creating Connection Rituals That Don’t Rely on Sex
What you receive:
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3-MONTH PRIVATE COMMUNITY ACCESS
Get coached, ask questions, and feel fully supported inside a private space of mothers reclaiming their erotic selves. Real conversations and practical guidance that supports you wherever you’re at.
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2x LIVE CALLS (NOV/DEC)
Connect in real time with mothers from all over the world, deep Q&A sessions, content unpacking, personalised tools - nothing is off limits! (8th Nov, 4th Dec 8pm NZDT)
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6 TRANSFORMATIVE MODULES
Step-by-step, practical and nervous system-based teachings and practices to go from touched out and shut down to sensually alive and sexually turned on again - no matter how far gone you think you are.
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*BONUS* Postpartum Sex
You’ll get 4 expert-led bonus modules to help you navigate sex after birth - from scar tissue and pelvic floor healing to rebuilding trust in your body, so intimacy feels safe, supported, and pressure-free.
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GUEST EXPERT: PELVIC FLOOR PHYSIO
Understand what’s really going on down there and get grounded, clinical answers to the questions you’ve been too scared to ask.
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PRACTICE HUB
Quick embodiment practices under 5mins and 10mins to reconnect with your body, no matter how exhausted you are - this is where the magic happens.
Wanna go deeper?
The Erotic Mother VIP Experience
For the mother who wants to be seen, held, and supported on a more personal level.
The VIP Experience is your chance to receive 1:1 guidance, therapeutic reflection, and deeper support to move through whatever’s keeping you stuck in a way that’s completely tailored to you.
WHAT’S INCLUDED:
🌸 90min Private 1:1 Coaching Session
An intimate, private space to soften, be seen, and receive more personalised support to move through whatever’s keeping you stuck. (Value $450)
(Value $450)
🌸 The Bedroom Blueprint
A custom PDF roadmap of everything from our session together - your desires and needs + the tools I suggest so you can start taking action with clarity.
(Value $247)
Only 5 VIP spots available.
Investment
ONE TIME PAYMENT
$497 NZD
3x MONTHLY PAYMENTS
$183 NZD
When I became a mother, my libido flatlined.
Honestly, I lost it early in pregnancy, and it took nearly five months postpartum before I felt even a flicker of my sensual self returning.
My body didn’t feel like mine anymore.
I was exhausted, touched-out, and sex felt like something I had to work hard to want.
I was sick of seeing things marketed to mothers that were purely quick fixes, leaving mothers feeling even more broken when they don’t work because they weren’t created for long-term change. Mothers need something different.
Luckily, I had a toolkit of nervous system practices and embodiment tools that slowly led me back into my body, and eventually back to my sensuality and sexuality as a mother.
Is my desire different now than before kids? Yes.
But I know exactly what I need to feel sexually alive, connected, and turned on. And now it’s time I share these tools and teachings with you.
Mothers aren’t broken. We don’t need to “try harder” or put more pressure on ourselves. We need safe, shame-free spaces and a path back to our erotic selves.
I see you, mama. I’ve been where you are. I can’t wait to support you.
Biggest love
Mel xx
✺ Frequently asked questions ✺
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That’s exactly why I created The Erotic Mother. Every lesson is under 15 minutes, audio-first, and designed for multitasking. You can press play while folding laundry, driving, or hiding in the bathroom. Small, micro-moments are how we shift.
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Perfect because this isn’t that. This isn’t about forcing desire or “spicing it up.” The Erotic Mother gets to the root by working with your nervous system, your breath, and your body. Just small, embodied practices that actually work for mothers.
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You don’t need to carry the weight of explaining it all. Inside, you’ll get tools and “Brave Conversation” scripts that make it easier to communicate your needs. Plus, the Couples Corner content helps your partner understand what you’re really experiencing without you doing all the work.
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You get lifetime access to all content. That means you can return again and again, no matter what season of motherhood you’re in.
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You can’t fall behind. This isn’t a course with deadlines, it’s a resource you can move through at your own pace. Whether you take it slow or dive deep, the practices will meet you exactly where you are.
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If you’re a mother who feels exhausted, touched out, disconnected, or like your libido has gone missing, then yes, this is for you. Not because you need fixing, but because you deserve support, safety, and practices that help you feel like you again.
Investment
ONE TIME PAYMENT
$497 NZD
3x MONTHLY PAYMENTS
$183 NZD
You don’t need to wait until the kids are older, until you feel more “ready,” or until you have more time.
Your erotic self is still there…under the layers of exhaustion, caregiving, and mental load.
The Erotic Mother is your soft, return back to that part of you.
Without pressure or pushing through.
Just small, practical and powerful moments that shift everything.