1:1 Coaching with Mel
Certified Holistic Sex & Relationship Coach, Somatic Therapist and Sex Educator
There’s so more to great sex than just “doing it.”
Great sex is about knowing how to confidently communicate your needs, wants and desires. Learning how to let go and feel into your body whilst bringing all aspects of yourself into the bedroom (without fear or shame).
By zooming out in session, we’ll uncover areas where you've learnt to shut down, hold shame, or block your own pleasure, so that you can reclaim your natural capacity for aliveness, sexual fulfilment and connection.
Nothing short of life-changing
“Working with Melissa the past 7 months has been nothing short of life-changing! I never fully understood the power of a coach until our work began. She guided me to unpack, process and integrate so much of my inner work to an even deeper level than I could have done on my own.”
JENN (CANADA)
Helped me step past the fear
“I felt completely disconnected from my femininity, from my sexuality and from the feeling of confidence. I felt like there was something wrong with my body. With my pussy and with my sex drive. Having that kind of support has helped me step past the fear. To be proud of my body. Of who I am and what it means to be a woman in her full expression.”
SOPHIE (NZ)
Reconnect with my body
“Before working with Melissa, I struggled with confidence and felt disconnected from my sensuality. I often found myself grieving past relationships and wasn’t sure how to create deeper intimacy. Melissa helped me reconnect with my body, build my confidence, and embrace my sexuality. The tools and practices gave me the power to embrace vulnerability and emotional openness, I’m forever grateful.”
JULIA (AUS)
Changed my life
“Meeting my empowered self was SUCH a powerful revelation. As I think you know, she’s changed my life! I’ve worked with coaches before, but the embodiment practices Melissa guided me through were like nothing I had experienced before. They were so impactful and have led me on a journey I could never have predicted.”
B.T (NZ)
Ways that I can support you
WRITTEN SESSION
Bedroom Blueprint
The Bedroom Blueprint is a trauma-informed, somatic-based written session designed to reconnect you with your turn-on, your confidence, and your pleasure without the overwhelm of a full program.
This isn’t a course. It’s a personalised therapeutic map crafted from your story, your body, and your desires to give you immediate, grounded guidance that actually works.
$247 NZD
INTENSIVE SESSION
90min Intensive Session
This focused 90-minute session is a space to drop into your body, get honest about where you’re stuck, and uncover what’s truly needed to feel sexually confident, connected, and fully alive again.
IN OUR TIME TOGETHER YOU WILL:
Uncover the root of what’s holding you back
Reconnect with your body through somatic + therapeutic practices
Leave with immediate clarity, confidence, and a personalised action plan.
This is not surface-level stuff; it’s live, high-touch, and entirely tailored to you.
$450 NZD
LONG-TERM SUPPORT
3-Month 1:1 Coaching
6x 75min fortnightly Zoom sessions which are a blend of somatic practices (guiding you to get in your body) and talk therapy (uncovering the mind)
Voxer support M-F to help you with anything that comes up between our calls so you can keep moving in the right direction, this is where you’ll receive extra coaching + tools
Personalised home play practices to continue the work at home (lifetime access to your folder)
Post session email debrief on what was covered in the session, so you can be fully present
$1,100 NZD per month
LONG-TERM SUPPORT
6-Month 1:1 Coaching
12x 75min fortnightly Zoom sessions which are a blend of somatic practices (guiding you to get in your body) and talk therapy (uncovering the mind)
Voxer support M-F to help you with anything that comes up between our calls so you can keep moving in the right direction, this is where you’ll receive extra coaching + tools
Personalised home play practices to continue the work at home (lifetime access to your folder)
Post-session email debrief on what was covered in session so you can be fully present
$1,000 NZD per month
In our sessions
In our sessions, we blend various talk-based therapies with Yogic practices like mindfulness and meditation, alongside somatic tools such as breathwork, sound, movement, focus, and intention. This holistic and dynamic approach will support you to process, learn, and heal on multiple levels.
Our sessions are collaborative and centered around your unique needs and desires, ensuring ample time for integration and reflection so you leave feeling grounded and clear on your next steps.
After each session, I'll send through some personalised 'home play' practices to deepen the work we've done together in our call to help cultivate ongoing growth and transformation between sessions.
These sessions are specifically tailored for women, regardless of relationship status. This is a space where you can feel truly seen, heard, and deeply supported on your journey of sexual self-discovery and healing.
Areas I work
Embodiment - supporting you to deeply connect with sensations and feelings in your body during sex - getting you out of your head and into your body so you can have connected sex.
Sexual Concerns - unable to orgasm, no/low sex drive, zero libido, no sexual desire, vulva/vagina numbness or pain.
Relationships - communication skills around needs, wants, desires, boundaries, intimacy practices, opening to more vulnerability, activating more eros, feminine and masculine dynamics, rebuilding after loss, birth, betrayal, spicing things up.
Healing - using a somatic approach to gently work through trauma, negative sexual experiences, heartbreak, sexual pain or nervous system dysregulation.
Motherhood - supporting mothers to rediscover themselves post birth.
Unsure if I can support you? Fill out the form below, and I'll point you in the right direction.
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2025 - Somatic Sex Coaching Certification | Institute of Somatic Sexology *currently studying*
2025 - Introductory Certificate in Embodied Counselling | Institute of Somatic Sexology
2024 - Foundations of Relationship Therapy 3-Day Training | Relationship Therapy Inc NZ
2020 - Certified VITA™ Female Sexuality Coach | The Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality
2020 - Certified VITA™ Women’s Empowerment Coach | The Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality
2020 - Certified VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coach | The Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality
2020 - Certificate of Attendance Trauma-Informed Space Holding – Sweigh Spilkin
2020 - Certified Fertility Awareness Instructor | Natural Family Planning Association UK
2019 - 100hr Sexual Sovereignty Training | TNYT & Somatic Sexologist Bonnie Bliss India
2015 - 2020 - 550hrs Registered Yoga Teacher – Hatha, Vinyasa, Anatomy, Meditation | India, Bali, Spain, Mexico
FAQs
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All our sessions take place online via Zoom, ensuring you can relax in the comfort of your own home. Each session begins with a grounding meditation or drop-in practice to help you fully arrive. We'll start by reflecting on the previous week and discussing any insights or challenges that arose.
Then, we'll likely engage in practices designed to help you connect with your body, overcome obstacles, and gain clarity.
Near the end of our session, we'll focus on integration, reflecting on your experiences, learnings, and any shifts you've noticed. Together, we'll craft an action plan for the next two weeks, ensuring you have clear steps to carry forward until our next session.
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I know exactly how that feels, I’ve been in your shoes but I also know how powerful and incredible this work is so I invite you to lean into the part of you that knows this is going to be the best experience of your life! Let her guide you into this next chapter.
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Rather than homework I like to think of it as play. Home play is what I send you after our sessions. This integrates the work we have done together. It’s things like – meditations, breathwork, breast massage, self-pleasure practices etc. All of your personal practices get added to your very own pleasure portal that you have lifetime access to.
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All my coaching sessions are done via Zoom so you can be in the comfort of your own home.