MELISSA VRANJES
Certified Holistic Sex and Relationship Coach, Somatic Therapist.
There’s more to great sex than just “doing it.”
It’s about feeling safe in your body.
Being deeply seen, without needing to perform or ‘fake it.’
Knowing your needs, desires, and boundaries and freely expressing them.
Inside my private sessions, we zoom out from the bedroom and go into the deeper patterns held in your body.
We’ll gently explore where you’ve learned to shut down, hold shame, or disconnect from your pleasure so you can reclaim your sexual aliveness, access deeper pleasure, and feel confident.
Sex is more regular
“Before working with Mel, sex was a checklist task that felt exhausting and loaded with pressure to reset our relationship, leaving us stuck in our heads and out of our bodies. Her warmth created such a safe, non judgemental space, she never pushed me too far, yet the gentle moments she did led to massive realisations. Now sex is more regular, more spontaneous even with our child in the house, more fun, and easier to say yes to. I also realised only 10% of this work is about sex; she helped me reframe belief systems, remember who I am in motherhood, and transform my relationship. The great sex was just the cherry on top.”
P.P (NZ)
Nothing short of life-changing
“Working with Melissa the past 7 months has been nothing short of life-changing! I never fully understood the power of a coach until our work began. She guided me to unpack, process and integrate so much of my inner work to an even deeper level than I could have done on my own.”
JENN (CANADA)
Sex life back after babies
“Before working with Mel, the interest just wasn’t there and I felt really nervous about any form of intimacy or touch. After having babies we let space get the best of us and everything between us became very foreign. I was unsure what to expect, but I trusted Mel and her expertise. Now my partner and I engage physically every day. We’ve come so far, from shying away to more than a kiss, cuddling, having deep conversations and reconnecting again.”
HOLLY (NZ)
Helped me step past the fear
“I felt completely disconnected from my femininity, from my sexuality and from the feeling of confidence. I felt like there was something wrong with my body. With my pussy and with my sex drive. Having that kind of support has helped me step past the fear. To be proud of my body. Of who I am and what it means to be a woman in her full expression.”
SOPHIE (NZ)
Reconnect with my body
“Before working with Melissa, I struggled with confidence and felt disconnected from my sensuality. I often found myself grieving past relationships and wasn’t sure how to create deeper intimacy. Melissa helped me reconnect with my body, build my confidence, and embrace my sexuality. The tools and practices gave me the power to embrace vulnerability and emotional openness, I’m forever grateful.”
JULIA (AUS)
Changed my life
“Meeting my empowered self was SUCH a powerful revelation. As I think you know, she’s changed my life! I’ve worked with coaches before, but the embodiment practices Melissa guided me through were like nothing I had experienced before. They were so impactful and have led me on a journey I could never have predicted.”
B.T (NZ)
Our Sessions Together
Our sessions blend talk-therapy with body-based practices that help you move out of your head and back into your body. Alongside talking things through, we may use tools like:
Nervous system regulating tools
Gentle movement and breath to release tension
Mindfulness and focus practices to build presence
Somatic exercises that reconnect you with sensation and confidence
Every session is collaborative and tailored to what you need most in the moment, with space to slow down, integrate and leave feeling super clear on your next steps.
This work is designed for women who want to feel more alive, confident and at home in their bodies.
Ways I Can Support You
Disconnection From Body / In Head During Sex:
Feeling “in my head” during sex / trouble staying present
Numbness or lack of sensation
Difficulty relaxing or letting go
Overthinking everything
Sexual Desire, Arousal & Orgasm
Low or no libido / mismatched sex drives
Loss of sexual interest over time
Difficulty orgasming or never orgasmed
Feeling “broken” or frustrated with sex drive
Motherhood & Loss of Identity / Sexual Self
Loss of confidence post-birth
Feeling touched out or overwhelmed
Changes in libido after children
Navigating intimacy with a partner after birth
Communication & Relationship Intimacy
Asking for what you want without shame
Expressing desires and boundaries
Talking about sex without shutdown or tension
Creating emotional safety and trust
Healing / Past Experiences / Trauma / Shame
Feeling guarded, shut down or hyper-vigilant
Anxiety or stress affecting intimacy
Difficulty trusting or opening up
Gentle somatic healing without reliving trauma
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2025 - Certified Somatic Sex Coach | Institute of Somatic Sexology
2025 - Introductory Certificate in Embodied Counselling | Institute of Somatic Sexology
2024 - Foundations of Relationship Therapy 3-Day Training | Relationship Therapy Inc NZ
2020 - Certified VITA™ Female Sexuality Coach | The Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality
2020 - Certified VITA™ Women’s Empowerment Coach | The Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality
2020 - Certified VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coach | The Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality
2020 - Certificate of Attendance Trauma-Informed Space Holding – Sweigh Spilkin
2020 - Certified Fertility Awareness Instructor | Natural Family Planning Association UK
2019 - 100hr Sexual Sovereignty Training | TNYT & Somatic Sexologist Bonnie Bliss India
2015 - 2020 - 550hrs Registered Yoga Teacher – Hatha, Vinyasa, Anatomy, Meditation | India, Bali, Spain, Mexico
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FAQs
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All our sessions take place online via Zoom, ensuring you can relax in the comfort of your own home. Each session begins with a grounding meditation or drop-in practice to help you fully arrive.
Then, we'll likely engage in practices designed to help you connect with your body, overcome obstacles, and gain clarity.
Near the end of our session, we'll focus on integration, reflecting on your experiences, learnings, and any shifts you've noticed. Together we’ll craft an action plan
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I know exactly how that feels, I’ve been in your shoes but I also know how powerful and incredible this work is so I invite you to lean into the part of you that knows this is going to be the best experience of your life! Let her guide you into this next chapter.
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Rather than homework I like to think of it as play. Home play is what we co-create in session together. This integrates the work we have done together. It’s things like meditations, breathwork, breast massage, self-pleasure practices etc.
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I work internationally with many clients around the world in Europe, U.S and Australia.
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All my coaching sessions are done via Zoom so you can be in the comfort of your own home.